“The only way to master love is to practice love. You don’t need to justify your love, you don’t need to explain your love; you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master.”
A friend of mine recommended this book by Don Miguel Ruiz, said it changed their relationship which was fascinating enough a statement for me to check it out.
This book, also boasting as, “A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship,” was quite a read. I highlighted so many strong takaways and nuggets of wisdom.
“The whole world can love you, but that love will not make you happy. What will make you happy is the love coming out of you.”
Essentially Ruiz focuses on fear-based beliefs and assumptions that sabotage love and cause drama in out relationships. He discusses control, accepting & loving ourselves to love others and how perfection leads to self-rejection.
“Whoever wants to suffer is welcome to suffer, but we don’t have to suffer.”
There are three masteries that guide us towards happiness, freedom and love. The Mastery of Awareness, the Mastery of Transformation and the Mastery of Love which is the result of achieving the first two masteries.
“If you go into a relationship with selfishness, expecting that your partner will make you happy, it will not happen. And it’s not that person’s fault; it’s your own.”
I will say some parts at the end gave me pause when Ruiz tries to solidify examples through character stories from ancient India and Toltec tradition but other than that, I was tracking along with a great deal of what he was saying.
“In the end that is what we are looking for: to find ourselves, to be ourselves, to live our own life, instead of…the life we were programmed to live.”
I can see how this book can positively impact a relationship. I have already used some of the key wisdom points in my own.
“When you hear your heart guiding you to your happiness, then make a choice and stick to it.”
Communication and the desire to understand our significant other can help us elevate one another in love. We practice love. We are able to be vulnerable, open and honest without fear.
“The relationship you have with yourself is reflected in your relationships with others. If you reject yourself then you will make the assumption that the other person will reject you for the same thing you reject in yourself.”