Self-Care Sunday

Sometimes you have to intentionally create the atmosphere and environment you want to be in. That’s why I love my Self-Care Sundays.

Self-care is so important because how can you take care of others who need your 100% if you aren’t taking care of yourself? 

I think I got the Self-Care Sunday idea from celebrity stylist June Ambrose who has different themes for each day of the week. She posts on her social media accounts based on these themes. Maverick Monday, Talk Tuesday, Wow Wednesday, Think Thursday, Forecast Friday, Sober Saturday and Sacred Sunday for example are her daily themes for the week. I’m adding Self-Care Sunday to June’s toolbox of great phrases.

For me Self-Care Sunday is about ushering in calm and peace to begin the week. I love lighting candles and turning on music to chill out. I usually do an at-home spa routine complete with a facial, scrub (Skye Renee Body Scrub is a fave. All-natural and homemade. Product created by Tiffany Jeanty in Atlanta), foot soak and nail care. I also spend a little time playing in my hair care and beauty products. I’ll blog on that another day since I often get asked about my favorite products. I sample lots of products so I love sharing what works well. 

Here are two of my own Spotify playlists for bringing on the good lyrical vibes…my mellow or 2016 Trinidad Carnivale Soca are my regular playing favorites. 

Three months ago I subscribed to Calmbox

“Calmbox is a monthly box inspiring positivity, peace, and calm in everyday life. 

Every calmbox is packed full of mindfully curated items like music, books, candles, personal care items, yummy snacks, motivational reminders, and so much more, to help you unwind and relax.

We find a new theme every month (like meditation, stress relief, or living in the moment) and deliver a box to your door to help you live a calmer, more peaceful life. A portion of proceeds of every box are donated to charity.”

Some of my favorite Calmbox goodies have been:

  1. Flying Bird Botanicals Peace of Mind Tea
  2. Everyday Positive Thinking. I take pics of different quotes regularly and text them out to friends. 
  3. Frisky Fish Chill Aromatherapy Roll-On. This is small enough to slip in your pocket and roll-on anytime during the day you just need some aromatherapy. 
  4. Motivational Tattoos – The Cute Set
  5. Valentina’s Soul Detox Mineral Bath Salts
  6. Chimes Peppermint Ginger Chews

Right now I am also getting back on track with my book list. Before bed, I try to read a few pages of Tina Fey’s Bossypants. Self-care is wholistic in nature. Well it should be. 

Every Sunday I spend time writing and blogging so it helps me to mentally relax and get some thoughts in my never-resting brain out to the world. 

All of these things are key to having a toolkit of what helps me minimize or eliminate stress. When I take good care of me, those around me benefit greatly. 

Self-care is also not just a Sunday thing. It should be happening as often as you need it. If starting with just one day or hour that’s about getting your own self in order, that is perfect. We can build from there but it has to start somewhere. 
What are your go-to’s for self-care? I’d love to hear from you! 

Dear Mom

This week one of the most special women in my life celebrates a birthday. My mom is an incredible lady who I love and admire. I can’t wait to celebrate with her over the upcoming holiday this week. 

Mom, if you’re the only one who reads this, that would be enough. 

Happy birthday! Thanks for your love. I appreciate that we are so close these days that we can call each other and chat like old girlfriends. You always share knowledge and wisdom which I enjoy. You have raised daughters of good character who can leave a beautiful legacy like you will. 

It’s hard to believe now that during some of my rotten pre-teen & teenage moments, I neglected to see  your wisdom. Thanks for not holding that against me. You always knew you taught me better and your training did help me grow past those areas of immaturity. 

I know if I ever have kids, I will be able to take bits of what you did and have a strong, God-loving household. 

Our family’s struggles and humble beginnings in life are nothing for any of us to be ashamed of. Without tests and trials, new limits can hardly be reached. 

Your story is powerful mom. You have triumphed over many challenges. You are an overcomer and you have been living life to its fullest in the process. 

I am the human being I am today because of the goodness and love you and dad gave growing up even though we didn’t have all the money or the biggest houses and newest cars and this and that. You all raised my sisters and I with the best of what you had and seeing what we have done with that now, I know makes you proud. 

You, yourself have plenty to be proud of. You have an incredible amount of strength, resilience, power, class and spirit to leave this world a better place. 

You and dad taught us respect for others and how to be kind and thoughtful and compassionate. In the same breath, I also love that you taught me to have boundaries and not let others walk over me which shows self-respect. You taught us the value of an education and also how things learned in books can’t be the other thing to rely on to make you smart. You taught common sense and knowing how rare common  sense actually is, I can’t help but be thankful. 

We have come a long way from where we used to be but you taught us to be proud of where we’re from and how we started. You taught us values and standards are worth having. 

Mom I am forever grateful for the support you pour into me. The concern and care you have towards making sure I’m safe and taken care of is amazing. I value the prayers you speak over my life and my household. 

You inspire my love for travel by encouraging it. You’ve always inspired my love of learning. 

You’re also pretty funny and I’m glad we can have a good laugh with one another. Sometimes you go a little off the rails with the text emojis but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I know you laugh me off about you being my Matron of Honor if I ever get married but I am so serious that I’m going to do that. Doesn’t that sound fun?? 

I wanted to write this because similarly to when I recorded you for StoryCorps, I like to reflect later on memories and share them with others. I always want history to remember those who made a tremendous impact. You are one of those people to me.

We are all blessed to know you mom.

As you always used to tell me before the end of every visit or phone call, I love you. God Bless you and keep you.

Cheers to many more birthday years! 

Me & Mom

Global Citizen

It has been a hell of a week in many ways. An emotional roller coaster to say the least but I’ll save the dive into those thoughts for another time.

I am American and we all have some things to figure out yet which is clear if you have seen any of the unrest that extends not just to this week but in many months and years and decades and centuries before this. Hopefully after America has had more time to collect itself more, we can revisit. For today I want to focus on something else. 

November is generally a month for being thankful. With the Thanksgiving holiday just over a week away, now is the time when people begin to look forward to spending times with friends and family while celebrating what they are thankful for. 

This week one thing I definitely was thankful for, encouraged and inspired by was the chance to spend time as a true global citizen. I am an American and I celebrate the power and strength I find in also being a global citizen which to me is loving and celebrating the world and acting as a sister to all who need. 

On Thursday afternoon I participated in a live-video focus group. It was a very cool experience and I had a lot of fun. The technology that exists to do something like that is really amazing. 

Other than me on the video feed from Chicago, there was also a person in South Africa, one in Ireland, one in Nigeria and two in the UK on webcams for the focus group.

We spent two hours answers questions from our moderator and sharing feedback on a project each of us had been involved with in London. 

It was just great that even though we didn’t know each other, we could see each other and share in conversation from around the world. I truly love being connected to people around the world. I am a global citizen so I do my best to treat others with the kindness and respect I like to see come my way.

We got to engage each other in conversation and feed off each other with the topics as we gave feedback. 

Because we were on live video feed in different countries and time zones, we really had to pay attention to each other. We couldn’t interrupt otherwise no one benefits from the discussion. We were thoughtful and patient and encouraging to each other. 

I had small insightful moments like this throughout the week where I could feel the power of humanity and it felt good.

Diversity of people and thought is so powerful in today’s world we live in. i believe we can be our best selves when we connect to others through empathy and compassion. We can empower each other to be respectful and thoughtful in our understanding of the growing world, ourselves and the people around us. 

I read something else this week that encouraged me so I want to share it in this post. Even if you are not religious, the point of the words will hopefully still land in the right place.

“If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care — then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.” Philippians 2:1‭-‬4 MSG

Apparently today is World Kindness Day. You can be anything. Try being kind. We’ll all be better off. Don’t you agree? 

Everything is Figureoutable 

Lots of focus and attention lately on figuring life out.

A friend of mine from London shared this brilliant video with me. During the video the lady being interviewed says exactly what I have been reminding myself all week…Everything is Figureoutable.

Chase Jarvis welcomed Marie Forleo as his guest on 30 Days of Genius, a special series of Chase Jarvis LIVE featuring the world’s top creative + entrepreneurial minds of our time.

Marie Forleo has built a digital empire on her massively successful career as a life coach. In the video, you learn about Marie’s own frustrating search for fulfillment and financial independence, and how she can help you become the person you most want to be.
Hopefully you can find time this week to listen to it.  

This week I also printed this amazing workbook created by Rosetta Thurman, founder of the Happy Black Woman brand. She is a great blogger and speaker, now hosting retreats and training to teach people how to live their best life, create their own business and be location independent. Rosetta moved from DC to Hawaii a few years ago to run her business. 

Anyways, it’s called the Life Mapping Workbook: Design Your Ideal Life in 7 Key Areas. 

The workbook is part of Rosetta’s 31 Days to Reset Your Life personal transformation program. 

It’s a sort of life map that I’ll be working on in the coming weeks as 2016 comes to a close soon. This is the time of year I also start working on my vision board for the new year so makes sense to be doing it all at the same time. 

This particular workbook is about visualizing what you want in the following areas: lifestyle & fun, career & work, money & finances, health & wellness, family & friends, love & romance and personal growth & spirituality. 

Everything is figureoutable.